EDUCATION AND DEVELOPING INSIGHT AND AWARENESS HELPS BEST-BOOKLIST
EDUCATION AND AWARENESS-BOOKLIST-GET INFORMED TO: 1) HELP Oneself best - need to be healthy to help othes get healthy
2) Help others best so are aware of their needs/how to deal
Develop Insight as "Insight ....adds...persuasion ....insight....slows down anger (Proverbs)
Protect and arm yourself with knowledge! If you REALLY want to help homeless people ya gotta know where THEY are coming from (like Sharon Mama Bear said: it is not how you see it, it is how THEY see it") and with emotionally fragile people the way a person interacts can do either harm or good. These books are excellent for identifying the problem and providing practical and healthy techniques to help the other person and at the same time protect yourself = boundaries - healthy limits help everyone. AWARENESS is KEY.
Know WHO and WHAT you are Dealing with and WHAT you are doing! Please Be Aware!
SUGGESTIONS:
Most important aspect about helping "desperate addicts" in their "freaked-out world of dispair" (quote from TimesColonist Article): BOUNDARIES
Other ideas: search as key words at library: BOUNDARIES, ABUSE, EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT, ADDICTIONS, CRYSTAL METH, CO-DEPENDENCY, ALCOHOLISM, PSYCHOSIS, MENTAL HEALTH...and, wow, lots of choices - Be aware lots of different opinions and own persons ideas and theories, some more accurate information/makes more sense than others, so read with the possibility of a change of mind as you gather more info and understanding, and sift thru the info and look for CONSISTENCIES, PATTERNS and PARALLELS and THEMES in the information. Here is what books I have personally found very good and have had reccommended to me repeatedly. To get u healthy so u can help others get healthy! Spread the word.
I will group books by topic:
BOUNDARIES/HEALTHY HUMAN BEHAVIOUR
1) ultimate book on boundaries / healthy behaviour: BIBLE
2) a) BOUNDARIES: Where You End and I Begin.
b) Where to Draw the Line setting healthy boundaries Everyday
- BOTH books by Anne Katherine
c) Boundaries: When to Say Yes...No to Take Control of Your Life
d) Boundaries in Marriage - BOTH books by Henry Cloud
e) Boundaries and Relationships, Knowing Protecting Enjoying the Self
- charles Whitefield
0) Emotional Intelligence - Ron Goleman
PERSONAL EXPERIENCES/ABUSE/CO-DEPENDENCY AND DEVELOPING SELF AWARENESS FOR CHANGE
1) 0) Women Who Love too Much, When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change
0) Letters from Women Who Love too Much... (also comments on men)
- BOTH by Robin Norwood
0) Diary of a Crack Addicts Wife - Cynthia P. Hunter
0) Dragonslippers: This is What an Abusive Relationship Looks Like
- Rosyln Penfold
0) The Bully in Your Relationship: Stand Up to Emotional Abuse and
Get the Care You Deserve - Anne Marie Testa?
0) Breaking the Cycle of Abuse - Bev Engel
0) Co-Dependent No More
0) Beyond Codependency
0) The Language of Letting Go
0) Playing it By Heart: Taking Care of Yourself No Matter What
0) CHOICES - Taking Control of Your Life and Make it Better
-All FIVE by Melody Beattie
0) When Passion Holds You Prisoner
0) Obsessive Love
0) Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them
0) Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life
- ALL FOUR by Susan Forward
0) In Sickness and In Health: The Co-dependent Marriage - Mary Stout
0) How to Stop Controlling Others and Caring for Yourself - forget author
0) Beauty Fades, Dumb is Forever: the Makings of a Happy Woman
- Judge Judy
0) LOVING CHOICES - forget author
0)
2) TO PROMOTE AWARENESS TO IDENTIFY ABUSERS AND HELP THE ABUSER CHANGE
0) From victim to offender - Freda Briggs
0) Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry/Controlling Men
- Lundy Bancroft
0) Nasty People...
0) Nasty Men...
- BOTH by Jay Carter
0) The Manipulative Man: ID His Behavior/Counter the Abuse/Regain Control
- Dorthory McCoy
0) If the Man You Love Was Abused: A Couples Guide For Healing
- forget Author
0) Don't Pee On My Leg and Tell Me it's Raining - Judge Judy
SAFETY/PROTECTION FROM PREDATORS/ABUSE/VIOLENCE/LIES and MANIPULATION
3) 0) The Gift of Fear Survival Signals That Protect Us From Violence
- Gavin De Becker
0) Strong on Defense, Survival Rules to Protect You&Family From Crime
- Stanford Strong
0) Whoever Fights Monsters Must Make Sure He Does Not Become One
- forget author
0) The Socipath Next Door - forget
0) The Psychopaths Among Us - Robert O Hare
0) Never Be Lied to Again - Dave J Lieberman
0) Emotional Blackmail, When People Use Fear, Obligation, Guilt
to Manipulate You - not sure author
0) Who's Pulling Your Strings? How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and
Regain Control Over Your Life - Harriet Braiker
4) ADDICTION
0) Overcoming Crystal Meth Addiction: An Essential Guide for Getting Clean
- Dr Stan? Lee
0) DVD: Death By JIB - Library
0) DVD: Crystal Meth, Treatment etc - from VIHA Youth Clinic - Colin Ross
Also I have many articles which are very enlightening and makes a person think feel free to request and I will photocopy for you!
o: Diary of a Crack Addicts Wife *** note that this author who wrote about her experiences is really STILL in a dysfunctional state and doesnt have it all figured out like she thinks - examples: doesnt acknowledge how wrong it was to use her child as a way to escape her abusive scumbag druggie husband and put the child in harms way by getting the child to hide/keep money etc. framed it in a good light but really in reality is bad - never put a child thru those things and she acts like its ok.
For Everyone to know:
Education = Awareness = change = hope = change = hope....compounds
How can you find the solution if you don't even know the problem? Need to know the problem first so can find the solution
Seeing is beleiving but also you need to Believe it first in order to see it!
Abuse and hate feed off ignorance, denial, and fear
Predators of the mind take advantage of assumptions, ignorance, lack of information,and false beliefs - so Protect and Arm yourself with knowledge and GET INFORMED!
If you want to help, you need to know exactly WHO and WHAT you are dealing with! Don't want to go in BLIND.
